Mother’s Fear, “What If Really I Scar Them for Life?

On Mother’s Day we honor our mothers in many ways.  I wanted to take a moment to speak to all those mothers young and old who are truly afraid of the responsibility or who feel they blew it somehow along the way; because God doesn’t want you afraid or sorrowful.  Being a mother is not as “naturally” easy as some want to say; because, remember God’s promise to eve?”in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children.” Furthermore, childbirth is referred to as travail (hard toil) in scripture. Along with motherhood , comes all the fears, fatigue, sacrifices and trials. We seldom look like Ms. Cleaver who had all the answers.  Instead, life is riddled with trials, hardships. Beyond that, families face a myriad of difficult decisions along the way.  Most mothers fear, “What if really I scar them for life?”

Often, we don’t want to voice those fears; not even to ourselves.  Let me tell you, as a 62 year mother of three incredible children and 5 beautiful grandchildren.  I blew it, more often than, I got it right!  If, I looked back at every mistake I made raising my children; well, we would be here for months, if not years.  Still, this I know!  God’s Grace is big enough to cover all our mistakes; if only, we rest in Him.  Furthermore, He chose you for a purpose.  Whether you gave your child to someone you thought better fit to raise your child or you raised them yourself, God can and will work it all out for His Glory and Your good; if you turn it over to Him.

ISAIAH 41:10  (TLB)

Fear not, for I am with you. Do not be dismayed.  I am your God. I will strengthen you; help you; and  uphold you with my victorious right hand.

Fear not; because God is with you.  Don’t despair; because God is Your Sovereign Lord and King.  He will be your strength, when you have none.  Your faith is anchored within His victorious, righteous right hand; never, to be let go.  He works all things together for your good.  Furthermore, I know this; because, I have seen Him do just that. He took all my broken pieces, mess ups and failures; then, He wrapped them with His love, Grace, and mercy.  He shook it all up, only to, reveal to me the magnificent finished product.  Because He loves each of my children more than I ever could imagine or try to; I can trust Him with the finished product.

A Mother’s Fear

I wish I could say that I was always right

Kept only your dreams and hopes within sight

And never turned my thoughts to seek for me

A life that brought you tears, instead of glee

Yet, if I face the truth, my darkest fears

I would weep a river of bitter tears

For the choices, I made that caused you pain

Scars from my words that replay and remain

 

God’s Grace Covered It All

Surprised, a man I met did say, “Your son!

He talks of you a lot, you are the one

Your son declares, who taught him grace”

A beam of purest joy lit up his face

As though he had met some celebrity

Although, standing in front of only me

Then I knew the truth of what God had done

His mercy touched the life of my dear son

 

I received a phone call another day

My other son’s voice with love did say

“Mom I know the person that you are

Your forgiveness and love reaching far

Into a broken world with strength you run

From dawn of day until setting sun

You taught me how by faith to live

Whatever comes, your grace to give

 

Then, I remembered my daughter dear

Who lived far away because of my fear

She was safer there, in her father’s arms

He would keep her free from all this life’s harms

To shield her eyes from seeing the abuse

I lived, at least that was my best excuse

Yet, it was God who restored her to me

My best friend, a lovely woman is she

Sovereign God of Grace

Oh, what a wondrous, Sovereign God of Grace

Who lead my children three to seek His face

The men and woman whom they have become

Are portraits of God’s own dear, beloved son

He let them see beyond all my mistakes

To find my heart of love that sometimes aches

Desiring for them lives free from all care

Morning and night, I bow to God in prayer

Each step I took, I tried to choose what’s best

Then trust a Sovereign God to do the rest

I learned this life would and could never be

A story perfected by someone like me

It always was God’s Grace that met me here

And for His Grace, I’ll sing loud and clear

Thank God, He chose these three to be

My children, my loves through eternity

Blessed Beyond Measure

I have been blessed beyond all measure

That God would be my greatest treasure

He loved me so much that at His pleasure

He bestowed upon me the chance to be

Mother to the most marvelous three

 

Concluding Thoughts:

Because God is at my side; I have nothing to fear.  He loves me with an everlasting love: therefore, I have nothing to despair of.  Because it is His pleasure to protect, provide for, and to guide each of my children; I can rest in His promises for them.  Paul wrote, “Laying aside the weight that so easily besets, and Forgetting that which is behind; I press for the mark of the prize of the high calling of God.”  Therefore, love your children with as much love as you are able; then, don’t worry.  For certain, one day you will remember a million things you need to seek forgiveness for and by God’s Grace they will.

Concluding Tweets:

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[tweetthis]It is God’s pleasure to protect provide 4 & to guide each of my children[/tweetthis]

[bctt tweet=”God takes all my mess ups wraps them in His Grace, shakes it up & pours out beautiful” username=”effiedarlene”]

 

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©Effie Darlene Barba, 2017

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