Loneliness is a state of mind where one feels isolated and often misunderstood. There seems to be no one who truly understands or shares exactly the feelings of the spirit and soul with you. No one understands or shares your agony, your sorrow, your joys, nor what you are trying to say. 
Loneliness is the intense realization that there is no other person who intimately knows one’s very thoughts, feelings, hopes, dreams, joys, tragedies, and there remains a constant search for just one person who might take the time to really know you and still love you. The existentialists believe that actually this is the plight of every human being ever born. That same search may lead to failed relationships, despair, constant running from one social event to another, drug usage, alcohol—anything to numb that feeling for a moment." What too often we do not see is
that we can only truly find fulfillment in a relationship with our creator; because we were created so that He could shower us with His love. Without that love, we will always have that feeling of loneliness. "Our greatest place of joy and fulfillment is found in our communion with God. Sin is the breaking force that prevents us from having communion with God because He being perfect righteousness and justice could not look upon sin. For that reason, God had a plan to send His Son who was also perfect righteousness to take our sins upon Him and pay the penalty once and for all, forever. He stands then and offers to each and every one who would accept this gift the wondrous opportunity of fellowship with Him. The glimpse of truth that I said is from the existentialist view is true and valid when referring to anyone outside of the companionship of God. Remember it refers to loneliness is that feeling that there is no one who truly knows and understands everything about my innermost thoughts and hopes and dreams. The truth there is only one who knows you intimately and loves you unconditionally—that is God.
Psalm 139 expresses this well,
“1O lord, thou hast searched me, and known me.
2Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.
3Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.
4For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether.
5Thou hast beset me behind and before, and laid thine hand upon me.
6Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high, I cannot attain unto it.
7Whither shall I go from thy spirit? or whither shall I flee from thy presence?
8If I ascend up into heaven, thou art there: if I make my bed in hell, behold, thou art there.
9If I take the wings of the morning, and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea;
10Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me.
11If I say, Surely the darkness shall cover me; even the night shall be light about me.
12Yea, the darkness hideth not from thee; but the night shineth as the day: the darkness and the light are both alike to thee.
13For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb.
14I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
15My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
17How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them!
18If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee.
19Surely thou wilt slay the wicked, O God: depart from me therefore, ye bloody men.
20For they speak against thee wickedly, and thine enemies take thy name in vain.
21Do not I hate them, O LORD, that hate thee? and am not I grieved with those that rise up against thee?
22I hate them with perfect hatred: I count them mine enemies.
23Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts:
24And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.
I will proceed to quote myself as I break this down to very simple terms for you O Lord, you have searched every part of my being and you know me now—from before the foundations of this earth and to eternity you know everything about me. You have always known every time I would utterly fail and each time you would lift me up. You have known my thoughts even before I existed. You have surrounded my path of life and even surrounded me when I laid down my armor to quit. You are acquainted with all my idiosyncrasies, all that makes me uniquely me. There is not a word that I have spoken but what You knew even before I said it. You even know every word yet unuttered that will come from my tongue. You have besieged me, surrounded me. You know all my past, my present and my future. You have laid your hand upon me. How can I ever be able to comprehend this? Knowing everything there is to know about me; yet, you chose me and you loved me. Where could I run so far that Your spirit would not be with me? If I ascend unto heaven or climb to a high spiritual plateau, You are there. If I make for myself a bed of hell here on this earth, destroyed by sins curse; You are still there with me. If I soar above the mountaintops high with wings of eagles or live in the deepest darkest trials of life; you are there to lead me through every step of my life and to hold me safe from even my own self destruction.
So, one day; finally, I awoke and knew that my search for that one person who knew me completely was over. In fact, He had been there by my side for 50 years. He had loved me before I was ever born. I had been searching for some cheap replica of the real thing. I had what I was searching for and had not seen Him in His fullest Glory. Christ had always been there—the greatest love of my life. Why did it take so long for my eyes to be opened? I don’t know. Yet, I do know that I have not had a single day of loneliness again since the eyes of my heart opened to this truth. I truly cherish my aloneness now with my true love at my side. Christ is my bridegroom for whom I will await His return with rejoicing.
We are born with that void that needs to be filled. We may think the void comes from not finding a human companion. We search to fill it with friends and events and work. Then we find we are not satisfied. We search to fill it with a spouse and then become frustrated as we find they cannot fulfill that empty spot deep within our soul. The only one who can do that is God. We were created to have this close intimate relationship with God. All other relationships can be an outpouring of that relationship with God; but we must see them for what they really are. They are not there to fulfill us or our needs. Only God can fill that gap. Only God is that missing piece. I had glimpses of that truth placed before me all along the way; but it did not become that strong force welling up in my spirit which drove away loneliness. I cannot tell you the steps in this process. I can only assure you that if you continue to seek and savor Christ, one day you will awaken and find that the darkness of loneliness is gone.
Excerpts from "Mountaintop Experiences in the Valley"
Question: What do you do when loneliness overwhelms you?
© 2011 Effie Darlene Barba
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